On the 7th of September 14, 2024, we had a first-class workshop with Fr. Wiseman Nkomo who shared his wisdom on safeguarding, human dignity, and on several types of abuse. He pointed out that both safeguarding and human dignity are the fundamental concepts which ensures the wellbeing and respect of individuals within society. He also pointed out that abuse is not love.
He defined safeguarding as the actions taken to create a safe space for all. This involves creating safe environments, promoting the welfare of those at risk, and responding appropriately to any concerns about safety. He unfolded the topic on Human Dignity by quoting from the Catechism of the Catholic Church, “upholding human dignity means recognizing that each person is made and formed in the likeness of the living God” (CCC 1700). This recognition involves treating people with compassion, fairness, respect, regardless of their circumstances or background.
He drew us in reflecting what abuse was not and then after reflecting we all shared what we thought abuse was not, “ABUSE IS NOT LOVE.” He made further clarification of abuse as mistreatment of someone or something, often resulting in harm or distress. Abuse can take many forms, including physical, psychological, sexual and spiritual abuse. Abuse can occur in various contexts, including within families, relationships, workplaces and institutions. It is important to recognize and address abuse, as it can have lasting effects on the wellbeing and mental health of individuals.
Identifying abuse can be challenging because it often occurs behind closed doors and can take many forms. However, there are certain signs and behaviors that can indicate someone is experiencing abuse. Here are a few key indicators which Father shared with us: physical abuse which can be identified through bruises, cuts, burns or broken bones. Emotional/psychological abuse identified through low self-esteem, isolation, and anxiety or depression. Sexual abuse can be a tricky one to identify, but the victims sometimes tend to be reluctant to engage in physical activities especially situations that require changing clothes or physical exams. Lastly but not least, spiritual abuse can be identified through sudden expressions of shame, depression, and anxiety related to religious practices, sleep disorders and intense fear.
Understanding and recognizing the signs of abuse is the first step in providing help and support. Father encouraged us to always seek help and create a safe plan to address the situation if we or someone we know is experiencing abuse. He added that it is crucial to seek help and always keep in mind that no one deserves to be abused.
Ending abuse is a complex and multifaceted issue that requires a combination of personal, societal and systemic actions. Here are a few steps that can be taken to help end abuse: 1. Recognize signs by educating ourselves and others about the signs of abuse. 2. Support the victims through our listening ears, emotional support and encouragement towards the victims to seek help from professionals. 3. Speak out by using our voices to raise awareness about abuse and advocate for change. We shouldn’t stay silent if we witness or suspect abuse, just like the famous quote from New York subways, “IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING.”
Ending abuse is a shared responsibility that requires the concerted efforts of individuals, communities, and systems. We all should work to ensure that each person within our community is safe. We all deserve to be free from any form of abuse or harm.
Thanks to Sr. Evarlyne Ndeti for sharing this news
